TWO WAYS OF LOOKING AT “IT” ……
Are you single??? Did you ever want to be in a relationship??? Did you ever try to lure a girl or a guy to be the special one in your life?? Are you in a relationship?? Are you out of a relationship?? Are you in a sour relationship?? Even if you fall into one or a majority of the above-mentioned categories or a category that is close to them, this might just bring back a few memories….
You find this really cute chick in college and your heart just goes BOOM. You say HI and give a big smile (a smile that would even make Julia Robert’s smile very ordinary) to this acquaintance (you often bitch about) of yours coz you get to know that he or she knows this pretty chick very well. You finally get talking and you become more than friends (according to you) and then you finally one fine day overcome the butterflies in your stomach and ask her out….
On your first date you find her looking like some angel who just came down from heaven although she is just in a pair of casual jeans and a cute top. You laud the way she looks to unimaginable extents and get similar compliments from her. Yeah man feels like being on top of the world. Phone calls last into the death of the night, who cares about the balance baap when she is making even the pettiest of things bloody interesting?? It feels like there is a lightening in the skies looming over whenever you see her radiant smile. You play around with her hair in a very subtle manner and she is enjoying every bit of it. You give her the best gift and try and make her birthday as special as you possibly can just to see her happy all through that special day. She gives you a card on your birthday but the card was made with her own hands and has amazing lines written about you and you treat this like she has given you your dream car (which in my case is the Ferrari Enzo) as your birthday gift. When your down emotionally and she puts her hand on your back and THAT IS IT the next moment you forget that you were in deep shit a moment ago. She speaks a very few words at this point of time but they mollify everything and your back in your jubilant spirits in no time. Petty but cute fights happen once in a while. All this is just B-E-A-UTIFUL. But lets see the other side of the story….
A few months into a relationship you start feeling that she is an additional burden to all the onerous stuff you are into already. You are late on a date due to unavoidable reasons and she sulks away to glory and accuses you of being late every time (even if you were late just twice in all the million times you met up). You are asked to stay away from a good friend of yours of the opposite sex FOREVER. Your half the time ‘broke’ and yet you collect and save every penny possible and buy her a special gift for her birthday and she has this look on her face which can be fathomed as “THAT’S IT!!! That is all you can get for me.” Your acads have gone down into the gutter for the first time in life. Your not able to take out time for your career and yet your always being blamed for not giving her enough time. She says YES to your proposal initially and then after 3 days the tube light in her mind lights up and says “I made a rash decision. We’ll remain ‘great’ friends forever.” You are ready to take the risk of being spotted by your family with a girl just for a few minutes of quality time but she is not. You get warning calls from her brother threatening to get you beaten up on your way back to college. You are committed for life and are expecting her to reciprocate but one fine morning she calls up and says “My brothers and sisters say I should not be involved in all this because of the family background(well it varies from filmy to political to factionist to affluent and what not) we have.” What CRAP is all this man…..
All the things I just mentioned are excerpts from the lives of people around me. This is not based on TRUE RUMOURS but based on TRUE LIVES itself. And this has been written with more of a guy's perspective but it applies equally to girls. My personal take on this “ IT”(lets call it “Relationships: The Beauty And The Beast”) I’m talking about is COMPLETELY different but I wanted to see how many people actually read all this and find at least one or two similar things that happened to them as well.
You find this really cute chick in college and your heart just goes BOOM. You say HI and give a big smile (a smile that would even make Julia Robert’s smile very ordinary) to this acquaintance (you often bitch about) of yours coz you get to know that he or she knows this pretty chick very well. You finally get talking and you become more than friends (according to you) and then you finally one fine day overcome the butterflies in your stomach and ask her out….
On your first date you find her looking like some angel who just came down from heaven although she is just in a pair of casual jeans and a cute top. You laud the way she looks to unimaginable extents and get similar compliments from her. Yeah man feels like being on top of the world. Phone calls last into the death of the night, who cares about the balance baap when she is making even the pettiest of things bloody interesting?? It feels like there is a lightening in the skies looming over whenever you see her radiant smile. You play around with her hair in a very subtle manner and she is enjoying every bit of it. You give her the best gift and try and make her birthday as special as you possibly can just to see her happy all through that special day. She gives you a card on your birthday but the card was made with her own hands and has amazing lines written about you and you treat this like she has given you your dream car (which in my case is the Ferrari Enzo) as your birthday gift. When your down emotionally and she puts her hand on your back and THAT IS IT the next moment you forget that you were in deep shit a moment ago. She speaks a very few words at this point of time but they mollify everything and your back in your jubilant spirits in no time. Petty but cute fights happen once in a while. All this is just B-E-A-UTIFUL. But lets see the other side of the story….
A few months into a relationship you start feeling that she is an additional burden to all the onerous stuff you are into already. You are late on a date due to unavoidable reasons and she sulks away to glory and accuses you of being late every time (even if you were late just twice in all the million times you met up). You are asked to stay away from a good friend of yours of the opposite sex FOREVER. Your half the time ‘broke’ and yet you collect and save every penny possible and buy her a special gift for her birthday and she has this look on her face which can be fathomed as “THAT’S IT!!! That is all you can get for me.” Your acads have gone down into the gutter for the first time in life. Your not able to take out time for your career and yet your always being blamed for not giving her enough time. She says YES to your proposal initially and then after 3 days the tube light in her mind lights up and says “I made a rash decision. We’ll remain ‘great’ friends forever.” You are ready to take the risk of being spotted by your family with a girl just for a few minutes of quality time but she is not. You get warning calls from her brother threatening to get you beaten up on your way back to college. You are committed for life and are expecting her to reciprocate but one fine morning she calls up and says “My brothers and sisters say I should not be involved in all this because of the family background(well it varies from filmy to political to factionist to affluent and what not) we have.” What CRAP is all this man…..
All the things I just mentioned are excerpts from the lives of people around me. This is not based on TRUE RUMOURS but based on TRUE LIVES itself. And this has been written with more of a guy's perspective but it applies equally to girls. My personal take on this “ IT”(lets call it “Relationships: The Beauty And The Beast”) I’m talking about is COMPLETELY different but I wanted to see how many people actually read all this and find at least one or two similar things that happened to them as well.
Let me end by saying if this post suggests that I'm against relationships then your WRONG big time. And I dont want anyone to come to rash conclusions or take bizarre decisions after reading this. It is just plain reality from LIVES OF PEOPLE AROUND ME and I'm NOT trying to MAKE ANY KINDA POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE STATEMENTS HERE. Just trying to tell whats happeneing around me(and my take on things is not influenced by any of this)......
P.S- LET ME EMPHASISE ON THE FACT THAT MY TAKE ON THIS “IT” IS IN NO WAY RELATED TO THIS POST. For the people who know my take on “IT” if there is any kinda coincidence with anything in this post please bear in mind that it just happened without my knowledge.
P.S P.S- After someone said "Is it girls mistake always??" after reading this post let me add, some of the things mentioned above have happened to girls as well but I have just put them as if it happened to guys. So there is no gender bias of any kind in this post.
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